- Vancouver, British Columbia - If you've ever read any rape prevention literature, one of the first things that you'll notice is that it is almost entirely directed towards women and what they can do to prevent being raped. Females are encouraged to take steps such as watching their drinks like a hawk when they go out; stay alert; only go out with friends; trust your instincts; or, carry pepper spray. All of these suggestions essentially put the responsibility on women, spurring them to be vigilant, since as a society, we charge women with the duty of protecting their purity and honour... Meanwhile, as far as what is said to men about preventing rape, it is quite limited. No one wants to believe that their dear sweet son, John Doe, could ever be capable of raping a woman, but they certainly believe that their innocent and pure daughter, Jane Doe, could become a victim of rape.
Entries in sexuality (6)
- Vancouver, British Columbia - Personally, I've never been entirely fond of going out to clubs. Whenever one of my friends would tell me that they were going out for a birthday party and that I should come, I'd find myself desperately hoping that I'd have a scheduling conflict that night. That, or be able to think of an excuse to get out of going, something akin to having to wash my front lawn, since the dirt was getting a bit much amongst the blades of grass. Admittedly, a part of it is that I don't enjoy dressing up when it feels like a competition of some sorts where I'll be judged mercilessly, regardless of the fact that I've never attempted to pick up a woman at a club. Weddings are way more fun to get dressed up for, plus the attention is never really on you to put on a show. Clubs, however, are something entirely different, and a large part of it likely has to do with the fact that it is essentially where human mating ritual seems to be most commonly observed in all of its unpleasant crassness.
- Vancouver, British Columbia - It has become increasingly apparent to me that we live in a world that increasingly praises women primarily for their sexuality. Perhaps not on the actual act of sexual intercourse itself, as that can often invoke such derogatory terms as "whore" and "slut" to be leveled against such a woman who engages in such behaviour with a variety of men, but instead, the appearance or the illusion of being sexy is deemed praiseworthy. As a society, we seem to want our women to be sexually appealing, but not actually be sexually active. There are roots to this which can initially be traced to a historical "obligation" that has been placed upon women that they must strive to be beautiful, but it has deteriorated into something more unsettling.
- Urbino, Italy - The fascination with women, or more specifically with their bodies, has almost always been a universally debated topic. I frequently read American websites, so I obviously couldn’t avoid reading of all those Hollywood starlets fighting to gain the covers of the gossip magazines over an amazing “bikini moment,” or for undergoing something like ten plastic surgeries in just one day. I do read foreign websites, as I exclusively read new online. I do not buy tabloids, and I have dramatically cut my time in front of the television, but I live in Italy, and therefore I cannot avoid seeing what’s going on here.
- Vancouver, British Columbia - Like anyone else, I hate getting spam. One day, however, I received some spam from some girl offering her webcam services to me and that she'd be hot and dirty, if I just paid the necessary subscription fee. I tire of getting this garbage in my inbox, so for some reason, I decided to tell her off and that she should leave me alone. When I equated her activities to that of a prostitute, she was apparently irritated by such a suggestion and she actually sent me a response. She stated that she was in fact a liberated woman and for once was taking advantage of her sexuality rather someone else taking advantage of it. She concluded her terse message by telling me that I was just jealous. Jealous? Jealous of what?